Communicating Your Insight
It might be clear to you by now that my parents played a major role in shaping my life.
I think much of this stemmed from the fact that they were both educators. When my father met my mother, he was a principal, and she was one of the teachers working under him. Throughout my life, he often remarked, “If you still don’t understand it, perhaps you should start from the beginning and read it again.” He’d then flip the book back to page one with a smile. Needless to say, with them, every day was an opportunity to learn something new.
Imagine how many emotional challenges we could alleviate if caregivers shared the insights and experiences they gained from their journeys with others.
When I began this caregiving journey 28 years ago, I was desperate for the knowledge I possess today. Unfortunately, much of it wasn’t available or did not exist back then.
I was constantly seeking information about caregiving for dementia. The most valuable insights came from former caregivers who continued to participate in support groups. It’s important to note that Facebook wasn’t around at that time, and the internet was just beginning to provide information.
Genuine understanding involves perceiving and comprehending life in its entirety. The wisdom gained from the experience of caring for a loved one is invaluable. No university can impart the lessons you have just acquired.
When you’re caught in the midst of indoctrination, it’s hard to recognize it, especially when it seems like everything is crashing down around you. However, once the chaos subsides—and it eventually will—I trust that your spirit will be enriched, and you’ll develop a more resilient character.
Life’s most significant lessons often come from our own errors. Those who have faced real challenges can guide others on what to avoid during their own journeys of compassion. Share your knowledge and use it to assist others, benefiting yourself in the process.
The key principle in giving advice is ensuring you have the authority to do so. Caregivers have repeatedly earned this privilege. Appreciate the knowledge you possess. As adults, we seldom pause to think about our past experiences. While your situation might be entirely different from that of other caregivers, believe that a connection will develop. Though your personal highs and lows, sorrows, and memorable experiences are uniquely yours, the sacrifices, responsibility, and dedication unite us as caregivers. This shared experience is what makes your insight so precious.
Your life experiences are one-of-a-kind, and others could benefit from learning about them. By clearing the path for others, you are also easing your own journey to recovery. Whether it’s by joining a support group with just a few other caregivers, the hard-earned insights you’ve gathered are exactly what they need. Share your wisdom openly and sincerely, demonstrate your passion, and you will be warmly welcomed.
Gary Joseph LeBlanc, Director of Education
